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I went back to this to find some definitions from a Christian man’s perspective:
To forgive: “To pardon; to remit; as an offense or debt; to overlook an offense, and treat the offender as not guilty.”
To Repent: “To feel pain, sorrow, or regret for something done or spoken; as to repent that we have lost much time in idleness or sensual pleasure; to repent that we have injured or wounded the feelings of a friend. A person repents only of what he ha said or done.”
to Apologize: “to make excuse for”
There have been, on occasion, (ok, truly, way more times than I’d like to admit) times that I have been ugly. That I have said things or done things that have hurt others. I have sinned. There have been times others have said or done things that have hurt me.
Sometimes I don’t readily forgive as I should. Sometimes I don’t readily repent as I should, as a side note, do you notice the definition for apologize? “Make an EXCUSE.” No! That’s not what I wanted. I want to feel pain, sorrow or regret at what I’ve done!
Tweet this: That’s not what I wanted. I want to feel pain, sorrow or regret at what I’ve done!
Recently, I was given a challenge of sorts, from God? Could have been. But it was something very clear.
Maybe I had not fully forgiven some folks that had offended me in my life.
So I made a list.
I forgive ________ (entered their name) for __________. (entered offense)
Friends, that list is pretty lengthy.
I did this because of what we did with Malachi many years ago,
I transcribed a letter written to his birth-mother, A letter forgiving her.
And he was FREE!
He was free of anger! Anger so deep. Anger you can’t imagine. Especially for a 3-year-old. He’d had it pretty much since birth.
I long to be FREE!
I want to find freedom.
Oh, not that I don’t have it, to a degree.
But I want to find FULL, AMAZING Freedom.
I long to put away bitterness
I long for my heart to be free
So I forgive and I’m forgiven.
“forgive, and you will be forgiven” Luke 6:37
“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” Matthew 6:14
And freedom is found.
“So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed” John 8:36 ESV
Shane and Christy
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Forest Gump was right. Life IS like a box of chocolates. You never know…but God does. He ordains the steps you take when you start young, when you think you have life, marriage and parenting all figured out–when you’re on top of the world. For us it happened when our oldest was about 3.
The hard times hadn’t come yet. The stresses and strains, the moaning pains that come with life. Hard adoption labor, illness, a lost job, a hospital stay, anger, hormone craziness, tough people to get a long with; sometimes it’s you, sometimes it’s your spouse. Sometimes it’s your children or your extended family.
And things don’t go as planned and you learn that even though you took your best guess and though you were getting a ooey gooey caramel and nut candy, you took a bite and realized it was orange cream instead—-YUCK!
You didn’t want orange cream! You DON’T like orange cream!
But you eat it anyway, and you learn to be content and do I dare say thankful for the orange cream?
Because God takes the orange cream and melts it in your mouth for a while and you realize not only was it good, maybe, just maybe it was even better than the other because God had his way. His dream succeeded , where your dream would have failed.
You look around 21 years later and realize that life is GOOD! Even better than your young dreams. That in spite of the shortcomings, you have a husband that loves you with the deep soul love that only time together can build…and you have it for him as well.
The children, though imperfect, are being molded to God’s glory.
And somehow you rejoice for the orange cream.
You rejoice that God took that orange cream and made it taste better than the nutty caramel you only thought you wanted,
And you know that whatever comes your way, life is good
And orange cream may be your favorite chocolate after all…
Shane says it has always been a favorite of his…I knew he was strange when I married him, lol!
Shane and Christy
BTW, today is our 21st wedding anniversary and my heart is FULL! It seems like yesterday, and orange cream is not only good it’s exceptional!
We’re linking up for the first time with Kate over at Five Minute Friday. The rules are simple. Write for 5 minutes on her one word prompt; no edits, just writing. Link up and comment on the persons blog before you.
This world today is vastly different from it was even 10 years ago. This country is farther away from God than it has EVER been before. Families are falling apart. Children are being raised alone, without guidance to know what is right and what is wrong. Same sex marriage was upheld by the highest court in the land.
Family is what makes a society work. When our families are destroyed the culture will be destroyed. This has begun to happen in our country and many countries the world over. Marriage began declining in the 1970’s and unfortunately it has never looked back at the wake it has left in its path.
Some say children are resilient and will bounce back. We don’t buy it. Maybe a rare exception. But children are HURTING. And not only are we allowing it, we’re the ones DOING it!!
Unfortunately, many of our Christian homes don’t look much different from homes in the world. Single parent homes, rebellious children…my brothers (and sisters) this shouldn’t be!
And this is why we are here. We’ve been through hard places in life. We’ve taken some stands that have not always been easy to take, we’ve had fantastic seasons in our life together, and we’ve had tough seasons when the only thing that got us through was the commitment we made standing before God, and our friends and family.
We think we have something to offer. We think we can offer something different from what is being done.
Different than mediocre marriages, divorce between believers, parents, but not only parents, but Christian parents, that don’t want to be around their children.
We desire to help you have a marriage that sizzles. A marriage where you can’t wait for your spouse to get home. A home where your children are respectful, responsible and FUN to be around! And YOU want to spend time with them.
You see dear readers, we’ve done that. Lest you’re thinking that we’re gonna sit here and tell you how perfect we are, let us assure you, we’re not THAT blogger. You know the one, the one where life is always perfect. The children that always look pristine, never get a scratch on them. There are never raised voices. The children always obey the first time, and never sass. Naw! We’re not THAT family!
We will be REAL with you. We will be TRANSPARENT with you. We will be VULNERABLE with you. And we will tell it like it is.
Why don’t you click the button to follow us as we begin this journey. Come along for the ride and see where the Lord takes us…
Shane and Christy